Life and snoring

I just got off the phone, speaking with my favorite cousin F. Technically she's my mother's first cousin, but when you're from the South, everyone is a 'cousin'. F is pretty much my second mom, considering my actual mother is just this side of a complete nut. No, really, she's actually crazy. It's been diagnosed. Anyhoo, F is married to M, who is just the NICEST guy in the whole world. I've known both of them my whole life. And M has been diagnosed with lung cancer. It's terminal. The oncologists and various other doctors at the preeminent university teaching hospital near where they live are going to treat it with chemo and radiation because they think they can buy him some time. But really his days are much shorter in number than we would like. It makes me very sad. But what makes me even more sad is F. She's completely devastated. M is a lifelong smoker. F keeps saying 'but the doctors said this isn't because of the smoking'. Seriously, you're really clinging to that? But then I realize that right now she needs to cling to whatever she can. Course this has helped in my campaign to help the BF stop smoking. He stopped January 1 and hasn't had a cigarette since. I'm VERY proud of him. Of course, he's felt like total crapola since he quit but hopefully that will go away soon. He has also turned into an eating machine since he quit but we'll get that turned around eventually.

Yesterday the BF and I went to the city to take in a small photography exhibit that a friend of a friend is in. Then we went to Gobo for vegetarian/vegan food. I was sure he would freak out and hate it but I think he actually liked it. Of course, I had to feed him a heaping helping of red meat tonight for dinner but maybe some day I can wean him off the 'meat every meal' concept.

So after I fed him the dead cow and he was snoozing on the couch while I talked to my cousin, she told me a story about M and snoring. Basically, she always made him wait to come to bed until she was already asleep so that his snoring wouldn't wake her up. However, for the last couple of months he's been in so much pain that the only way he could get any sleep at all was to sleep sitting up on the couch. The doctors finally got his pain medication combo to the point where he could sleep in the bed for a full night. She was so excited to hear his snoring for two nights in a row. We had a good chuckle over that. I went out to the living room where BF was snoozing (he's a MAJOR snore-er). I remembered how agitated I was the first month I was here living with him and I wasn't able to sleep because of his snoring. And I realized that while I will probably get annoyed with the snoring many times in the future, I'll always stop for just a second and remember F and M and how happy she was to hear him snore. Just for two nights.

Back to the Shala tomorrow. YAY!!!!!!!